- Ignoring what you can control
Every single thing you put effort in every single day of your life determine where you’re life is going and where you will end up. If you want to be in control of your goal, then start controlling your daily habits. Ocassionally, shit will hit the fan and you won’t be able to control it, that’s when you just roll with it, rather than against it. To put it in different words, it’s not what happens to you, but how you respond is what matters the most.
- Worrying about what you can’t control
True self freedom is when you accept the things you can’t control and when you understand what constraints you have to work within to build the life you want.
- Believing someone else’s definition of success
Something we usually tend to do is looking at other people arround us and feel depressed because we are not like them. Or “How come they thought of that stupid idea and now they’re popular and rich, when I could’ve thought about it myself?” Then we enter this loop where success is defined by the stories around us and not by our own dreams and goals. It doesn’t matter what others think about you, but what you think of you.
It’s time for you to start being decisive about what you want in your life. Who do you want to spend time with? What type of information do you want to fill your mind with? What type of environment do you want to be in?
- Giving up as soon as it gets tough
Life is full of testes, that’s all what it is actually; we jump from one to another and sometimes without even a break. That’s when we feel exhausted and tend to just give up. Nevertheless, life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who are willing to go the extra mile and demonstrate never-ending commitment. You just have to keep your head up, and keep moving without looking right or left.
- Taking yourself and life way too seriously
It’s our natural instict to take our actions very seriously, and punish ourselves if we make a mistake. We tend to get mad at life if we don’t get what we want.. How many of us were in this position before? Thing is, if we are too serious all the time, we won’t be able to enjoy or be happy even when things go well. Trust me on this. Learn to enjoy the ride itself, regardless of where it takes you.
- Sticking to friendships that aren’t pushing you forward
I am not saying to call all the people whom you hadn’t a meaningful conversation with in the last 2 weeks and let them go. We all need relationships, even the less serious ones. However, some relationships can have a really negative impact on your life, someone who is always negative or doesn’t want to see you succeed is not something you need to talk every day, right?
Find people who GET YOU, people who are on the same wave length with you, people who laugh with you at the same things. Learn to say ‘yes’ to the right people, and the right opportunities will come to you soon after that.